This time of year is not always happy and jolly for everyone. My Mom passed away last week and one thing that keeps me going is the fact I have learned to be resilient.

You, too, must learn this skill to succeed in business these days. It’s not always easy – so, it’s not necessarily how hard you fall – but how well you bounce – and how well you bounce BACK! Tough stuff happens and you must equip yourself with the mental skills to cope and move on.

I have learned a lot from the teachings of Dr. Robert Schuller. I want to share some of what I have learned with you today.

“Pain is temporary – memories are forever!” – Dr. Robert Schuller

1. The Mystery of Memories. Hopes, dreams and accomplishments are positive memories. Memory is not always a positive healing force. There are mysteries surrounding our past – our thoughts – our experiences. When going through stressful times, focus on the good because the mind cannot hold two conflicting thoughts at the same time. When you focus on the good, you remember the good.
2. The Ministry of Memories. God uses the memory system to motivate us. Fill the memory system with positive stuff! Surround yourself with positive people who will uplift you.
3. The Management of Memories. Decide what books to read, what TV to watch; decide not to be shaped by our culture; feed your memory with good stuff; impact your memory with positive repetition.

For me, right now, all I have are the memories of the times with my Mom. Since I made the major life move across the country five years ago, I have focused specifically on my relationship with my Mom – which had been strained for many, many years.

I made a dedicated effort to change that – and change it we did – together! Such a blessing for me, now, to know that the past five years have been filled with joyful visits (our trips to the ‘chip truck’ for a hot dog and French fries to take down by the water to enjoy), fun adventures (our road trip through the Maritimes the first summer I was here – and we returned to the place where we were both born – and where her ashes will be taken) – the time we spent together watching Wheel of Fortune (Jeopardy was too difficult, she said) and laughed when we couldn’t get the simple phrases – through to the commitment I made, along with my brother, to send her flowers at the beginning of each month. My Mom always said that flowers are for the living to enjoy – not for when you are dead. She loved each and every bouquet that showed up, regularly, and just for her……just ‘because’!

To succeed in life and to succeed in business, you must learn to be resilient! There is no question that tough times happen –

“Tough times never last – but tough people do!” – Dr. Robert Schuller

I am having a tough time right now – and have a HUGE hole in my heart – but I have some really great memories of the times spent with my fabulous, smart, articulate, brave and inspiring Mom. I am resilient – I will move forward – and I will continue to make her proud because I am a chip off the old bl ock!

Rest in peace, Helen Fortin!